It is inherently human to be inquisitive.
In the event of tragedy striking this trait can be disturbing. Some individuals may become intrusive in their thirst for knowledge and not even be aware when boundaries are crossed or limits pushed.
Whose responsibility is it to respectfully call that conduct? Who makes the call about what needs to be shared and what must remain tightly held by those who have had their world shaken?
Whose story is it to tell?
I ask that question in the context of anyone seeking to learn more about a particular incident or situation, particularly a situation which is heartbreaking.
I have fielded many questions in the past few days about an event which has changed the path of the life of a young man.
It was not too onerous for me to deduct which questions were born out of genuine concern and which were asked in an attempt to obtain details – details which, in the scheme of things, were really not all that essential to know.
The questions and comments of concern though were easily discernible. They included “we are thinking of you”, “what can I do to help?” and “today is going to be OK.”
My response to one thoughtful and caring message was a simple ‘yes - today is going to be OK.’ I continued:
Today all over our fragile planet ordinary people will do extraordinary things.
Today newborn babies will be held close by their mothers.
Today some hearts will stop beating and grief will stricken those left behind.
Today some people will struggle to face the day ahead and will look to other for strength.
Today those who offer strength will do so unreservedly and in many different ways…some subtle and some with selfless bravery.
Today will turn into yesterday and with it a memory to hold dear or to let go.
Yes, today is going to be OK.
So if you have a story to tell, ensure you are the author and that it is your story to share. If you find you have to add chapters or embellishments to make it your own then perhaps it wasn’t ever your story to tell.